What if you could be a better husband, a better wife, a better parent, a better son or daughter, a better friend, a better Grandmother/Grandfather? But how? If you’re anything like me, your time is already limited. What can you do to become better?
First of all, let’s look at why you would want to become better. If you are a person that just lives a mediocre life, but you desire to change, to live beyond what you’ve lived so far, to move from mediocre to excellent, then I’m here to help. If you don’t want to improve, let me just state the benefits of changing from mediocre to excellent.
- You’ll find when you become a better you, that you’ll be happier. Nothing ruins happiness more than living a mediocre life. It doesn’t happen immediately, but over time you find your life humdrum, boring, and uneventful. This is why many people when I ask them “How are you doing today?” they answer “Different day, same Sh*t.”
- Those around you will respond better too. (Don’t expect this to happen overnight, but with consistency on your part, it will happen). What do I mean “respond better too?” Have you ever seen an individual enter the room and all the heads turn and people start smiling towards that person? This is what I”m talking about in people responding better.
- You’ll wake up excited to start the day!
So, let’s get started!
First of all, becoming a better you means to live with intention. In other words, you have to consciously choose some action plans to be a person of excellence.
- HOW TO BE A BETTER HUSBAND/WIFE
I’ll give you some tips, but for more tips, you’ll want to buy some books.
- Know your spouses love language and speak it. If you don’t know what I’m talking about then I’ll suggest a vital book that everybody should have even if they are not married. It’s called The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman. First of all, you’ll want to know your own Love Language, and you’ll be able to discover it with the link above for free, and then you’ll want to discover and know your spouses love Language.
- Okay, once you know your spouses love language you can now decide what to do/give/say for them. Here are some tips:
- Leave a love note somewhere he/she will find it unexpectedly. This is one of my favorite things to do. I’ll write a little note and leave it under her pillow or on the bathroom mirror, or in her purse. Different create places. I’ll put a date on it too, so she can see how long it took her to discover it.
- Cook his/her favorite meal with no occasion.
- Go out on a date without the kids. Yes, you can still date your spouse even after you’re married. I highly suggest at least once a month if not more.
- Give him/her a gift just to say “I love you.”
- Take a day off just to be with him/her.
- Tell him/her how much you appreciate them and love them with all your heart.
- Never nag one another.
- Speak words of encouragement and appreciation.
- Go shopping together (without complaining about it men).
- Hold each other’s hand
- Make passionate love. Change it up. Don’t get in a rut.
- Open the door for her.
- Give her/him a nice body massage with essential oils.
*BEING A BETTER PARENT
My children are grown, and you know what they say; nothing better than hindsight to see what you could have done better.
- Read a bedtime story to them. (It will bring bonding and encourage your child to read on their own).
- Leave a note somewhere letting them know that you wish them an excellent day and to be blessed.
- Cook their favorite meal.
- Make their favorite dessert.
- Spend time with them.
- Listen to them. What I mean is, put down the phone, put down the tablet/computer, shut off the TV and really listen to them with 100% of your attention.
- Take them out for a meal just for the two of you to talk and enjoy the day/night.
- Speak life. Speak encouraging words. Never call them names or call them dumb, stupid, or slow.
- Get involved in what they care about. Maybe it’s sports or theatre.
- Make or have breakfast ready for them during school days.
- Help them with their homework if possible.
- Watch their favorite cartoon or show with them.
- Play a video game with them if they would like that.
- Get outside and so something together.
*BEING A BETTER SON/DAUGHTER
- Realize that your Mother and Father can’t always be your friend. They have to take the authority to direct you in the right way to live, even if at the time it seems like they don’t like you. They have the best in mind for you.
- Put down the video game and spend some time with your mom or dad. I know it’s a lot of fun and there’s nothing wrong with spending some of your time relaxing by playing games. Just don’t make it such a habit that you are ignoring your parents.
- Make your Mom/Dad breakfast as a surprise. They will love it! (Don’t forget to clean up after yourself too, to make the surprise even better).
- Help keep the house clean by starting with your room.
- Help keep the house clean besides your room. I know it sucks, but you live in the same home too. Help out with something on a regularly without being told. It will be much appreciated.
- If you are an adult, act like one and take responsibility for your actions and inactions. Don’t blame others for your own mistakes or sins.
- If you are living away from your Mom/Dad call them once a week to say hi. It doesn’t have to be a long conversation. Just let them know you are alive and how you’re doing. Even if they don’t pick up, leave them a voice mail to say hello.
- Don’t ever steal from your parents. Not as a child and not as an adult. It’s better to let them know what you need and ask for money than to steal in any form.
- Never yell at your parents. Always show respect. Yelling will cause hard feelings and may get your kicked out of the house permanently.
- Remember your parents birthday and either make/give a card or a call if you’re not living at home.
*BEING A BETTER FRIEND
- Call them up just to say hi, even if the call is short.
- Don’t just say “Let’s get together sometime.” But instead, say “Let’s set a day to get together.”
- Send your friend a friendship card.
- If you grow your own fruit or veggies, share some with your friend.
- Help your friend with some advice IF they ask for it.
- Help your friend with a project without being asked.
- Post a funny picture of the both of you on Facebook or Instagram.
- Get together for a drink or meal.
- Go fishing/hunting together
- Go shopping together
- Go to church together
- Message them and tell them you are thinking of them.
- Remember their Birthday. Put it on your calendar (electronic or otherwise) to help you remember.
*HOW TO BE A BETTER GRANDMA/GRANDPA
- Volunteer to watch the kids so mom and dad can have a break once in a while.
- Send a card with a dollar in it.
- Send a picture of yourself with a card.
- Get professional photos made of the whole family
- Fix their favorite meal
- Buy a toy for them, but make sure the parents are okay with it.
- Sit on the porch and impart some of your wisdom and/or family history.
- Making the Holidays special. Easter, let them know what Easter is really about, but still give them a chocolate Easter Bunny.
- Go for a walk together
While most of these tips are simple, ask yourself, “Am I doing them?”
So, matter who are you, if you take some intentional action steps in becoming a better you, you’ll find that not only yourself but the others around you will be happier because you did.
Do you have some more tips you’d like to share? Please comment below.
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